It’s looking like letting go isn’t as easy as it sounds, isn’t it? But we can make it as easy as possible. Here are other steps to take:
- Learn not to break down emotionally in front of them. The more secure you feel, the more confident they will be. Weeping in front of them sends signals that moving forward, i.e., going to school, is a negative thing. Also, it will generate guilty feelings in them, so that instead of focusing on their new life; they will be busy worrying about you.
- Avoid asking too many questions about school. This will send signals that you are not confident that they can take care of themselves. Ask just enough questions just to show that you care, no more.
- Know when to let them do their homework by themselves. It’s part of giving them their independence. If they need your help, they will ask. But let them be the ones to ask. Don’t smother them with too much attention. It will disrupt their emotional growth.
- Let them make their mistakes. And relax too. Don’t get all protective and defensive whenever they trip. Just ensure that they learn from their mistakes and move on. This will let them be more cautious and innovative in future. Education is all about learning, unlearning and re-learning.
- Deal with your own separation pangs with a friend, relative or colleague. If you don’t, it will affect your own well being. Find parents who have trod this path before and share notes. This will help you cope well without putting too much emotional pressure on the children.